Pain in life is inevitable but suffering is optional

"Pain in life is inevitable but suffering is optional"

I can’t begin to tell you how much this quote centered me. I immediately found my balance, knowing I don’t need to worry about all these loose ends, knowing truth that Pain is an unavoidable part of every life. So far I believe we all know and named pain in different forms, but it is one of the inevitable facts and essence of life is that it's challenging...

When we are in pain our first response is to somehow get rid of that pain which is not always possible. Still, our minds tell us that the less pain we experience, the happier we are, may be that can work for many but this adage doesn’t accommodate me ever….I don’t like it sometimes (quite often, actually) it is painful.

A large portion of what we feel when we feel pain is not true pain at all but suffering, that is our mental response to pain at situations. The way we choose to think about a given situation creates the reality of the moment. I understand the difference between pain and suffering practically and trust me those who let themselves suffer also tend to lose touch with themselves, becoming more unhappy with each passing day but Of course it would be unrealistic to think that merely changing our thoughts about pain will make it go away. Pain, whether sudden and unexpected, or chronic and short-term, It make suffer a lot and often I experienced happiness in the midst of suffering and pain in the midst of joy in my live undoubtedly....

"I may associate darkness with fear or sadness. Yet darkness may also mark a new beginning, a time of transformation. Out of what was, something new emerges. A new creation of spirit who awaits the return of spring."

I power through the feelings Perhaps I will have the opportunity to see it tomorrow…..

Love

Meenakshi

Another Rainy Day!!!

Shopping is one of my pleasures…I enjoy shopping!! I like buying clothes, shoes, hats and so on , but I also like just looking at those goods around the shops without buying.

The other day, me and my best friend went shopping at Jalpat Nager, Located in South Delhi, Personally we both like shopping (no wonder girls may have amazingly common practice) both we reached the place direct from our office. Lajpat Nagar is a popular market for shoes and cloths. It is quite a hit among the middle class of Delhi. This is one of my favorite places to go shopping ,although we have been there so many times but every time we go we find something new in that shopping place, from head to toe all favorites are available market, so just when we begun started shopping it started raining at the same time.

Unluckily we had to stop roaming around and look forward to shelter ourselves from rain and rushed to closest shop near with, just then we turned back we saw at the corner shop a lot of rush, we really couldn’t make out what the fuss was all about. We went closer and found out that it was a “Pakodas” shop and people were relishing the yummy Pakodas. Even we could not resist the tempting oozing smell out of the hot hot pakodas served with the green chatni with pinch of spicy chat masala over it, we ate the pakodas whole heartedly along with yummy lassi (not to forget) served with it.

Yes, wet days can be very productive indeed, well that was too a good experience that we went for 10-15 miles away from place just to have yummy taste of Pakodas and left with nothing except unforgettable taste of it. ymmm that taste is still fresh as it was on that day….

In general my shopping habits are a bit strange, I think. I can't easily decide what to buy, so it takes me a long time to do my shopping. At first I don't buy anything and stroll through the shop, looking around, talking with my friends etc.. When I find a piece of clothing which I like, I keep it in my mind and continue looking for other nice pieces. At last I pick up some pieces to choose from, and then I decide which one to buy. It takes me much time and physical strength! But those are my basic habits... Some of my friends choose their clothes intuitively; I am envious!

But...recently, the time I take for shopping has been improving. I don't spend so much time any more on choosing the clothes I want to buy because my mother told me to make up my mind more quickly. I reformed myself according to her wish…

Yeah come back to subject After shopping I also enjoy thinking about the combination of the clothes I bought with the ones I've already got….and whole night I dreamed about it... sound funny but that’s the way it is....

An evening down to memory lane....

"Memories behave in a crazy way...they leave you alone when you are in a crowd.But when you are alone they stand around you like a crowd"......

Last evening I was lost in my own thoughts.....Yes the unusual tranquility that my otherwise noisy surroundings gave me was hugely responsible for me going into a state of deep trance for how long I cannot recollect. Memories came flashing past the eyes, Memories of childhood, the growing up days, the final days of school,and then the struggle to establish oneself......

With these were also some unpleasant memories and the struggle of existence from time to time. it was retrospection at its best. I was wondering at the same time how many people we used to get influenced in the growing up years. Just because someone cleared the MBA entrance made me look for excuses to convince my family to let me join in .Or just because someone’s daughter was having a delight career with lavish lifestyle in the west made me dream of taking up something as a career that will ensure the same for me, not realising or even bothering what did I actually want to do....Now when I think it sounds insane but that's actually what most of us did.

I went back a good years back on time and had a rollercoaster ride with my memories and the emotions attached with each incident that was dancing in front of my eyes. Good memories often get lost and hard to find. I will remember time when trying so hard to find a good memory, something that would bring me happiness and joy… Creating good memories is what we are here on earth for, aren't we? :-)

Meenakshi

who commands over this world

This time sure one may consider me as a philosopher or so.... also some people those who acknowledge me nearly would may surprise too by a distinguishing feature of emotional spiritual traits... but really I start lettering as I feel that there were some thoughts in my head that I sought after to let out here, which were wavering in my mind so long but only I able to summaries in word today due to it’s significance may be.. Some sort of thoughts, spiritual thoughts actually this time.. I now this is a totally different phase of mine but for sure includes in my trait of personality, but it’s also truth that being a professional one doesn’t mean insensitive.......


I wish to verbalise something, you may call simmering inner thoughts of mine infact... Always One of the greatest and everlasting debates of humanity has been about the role of God, destiny or say fate in the lives of human beings, well the experiences of people are the strongest arguments in favor of it, In total I strongly belief, because it’s been proven to me and continue too, don’t know how many of yours like to have glance ahead with courage or just left unseen consider as useless brunch of words or wastage of time.... but subsequently I would not like to pay attention to those and sure not gonna resist myself to move ahead in this regard over the time consider it visionary differences of people...


Now we come to the theory as It also reaffirms my belief in the saying that here in this live world, in mid of seasoned and mastermind and masterpiece personalities called human, those who have become more seasoned than anything in this universe, those hands become more strong and long like anything, still there are having unique supernatural and powerful presence as strong something call divine, almighty or say omnipotent… which is above our all long and strong hands, something supernatural, omnipresent, omniscient, someone who really command, something who ruled, who justice, who reward the good and punish the evil, who originated Himself …who always manifest... Some natural power or may be something who actually listen to us, smile with us when we smile and happy, hold us tightly when we are under pressure or feel alone at dark, enlighten himself whenever we feel unheard or unseen, depressed and week and we named it God, which has many forms and name be but the value is same as one. His Game, he needed cosmic players. So He created Himself in millions of forms and shapes...


I mull over this thing as in this modern world which has become thoroughly materialistic because of practical and sensible common being like us and roaming around us ... Trust become fade and Faith become blind, and in any situation who always gives me hint to answer anything that's none other than the morals of Geeta...am too defender of some of morals of the holy book of Bhagwat Geeta in contemporary explanation that In Kalyug your domain is only Your Kurukshetra, do all your deeds as worship to god....listen how beautiful it is and imagine how carrying great weight it is...People hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart…Since every time, in every situation it’s reveal me my answer in different ways and always in different sense... How astonishing it is really I speculate at time…I commit to memory written somewhere a form of story since a man was waking on a shaking bridge. he prayed for help. he saw God on the other side of the bridge & asked God to come near. but God didn't come Man got angry. With great difficulty, he crossed to the other side and saw God holding the broken bridge. Trust Him His ways are amazing....


Well Thanks for patience reading…Since I Belief that in our lives all we have must gone through certain state of affairs, in situation where nothing left in our hand to escape ourselves from the situation or whenever we fail in some endeavor or whenever something happens which is not in accordance of our wish, that time and only thing which help us just left all things in his hand and start believing that some magic would happened......I know we all well aware with his form of work and timid. he is great magician in this world…But why still I feel like to write to just make myself realized how meaningful he is for me in every aspect of my live, That he should realize, even after being inner ruler of all of us, since what are having an important effect things he is doing or have to take care for me and what that really stand for to me…. My heart now touched with abundance emotions, there is no need for any revealing, and no need for complicated philosophies rather than takes halt...


Meenakshi

Just when I thought nothing could get worse, life came and slapped me in the face and at the end, left with nothing....

Just when I thought nothing could get worse, life came and slapped me in the face and at the end, left with nothing....I am speaking about life, the good times and the bad. Things are not always perfect in life and it cannot be , it’s not a bed of roses. It’s full of ups and downs. It is like an endless ocean and we are sailing in a boat. We want to touch the shore but it’s not visible...

Two concepts that really help me are "Life is not easy" and "Life is not fair." These may not sound very inspiring or uplifting, but they help me all the time and has open my heart to face every situation in full of obstacle those have no end, you always find second ready subsequently on the way waiting for it's turn when one settle down.sound very common but It becomes at times difficult and not easy to fight with.

Sometimes, it becomes difficult to analyze whether all that happened was fair or not!! But life makes us much capable to cope up with every kind of situation all together, its true life doesn’t give second change for sake of improvement since subsequently upcoming every opportunity itself would be bit more high or less in values but never would be remain same.

We think that life is only difficult for us, but there are others who have it worse than us. So one has to understand that all of life's doors are not closed. There is no need to get disappointed because of failure. They aren’t the only one struggling in this huge sea like world. There are other people too who are also sailing with in the same boat; trying to reach their destinations, may only difference could be in destination but way would be remain same.....

In life, we are often faced with challenges and opportunities that are difficult and often seem impossible. However, our potential and capacity is amazing. Many times we underestimate or do not realize what we can do. Many times we put self-imposed limits on ourselves. I may me imperfect transforming my message in words or emotions but I really hope that you will not disappoint me by just reading this blog by having a glance on it or thinking it as a waste bunch of words, since words take shape with full of sentiments...so must realise its values!!

Meenakshi

Today is another day but not ordinary day........

Today is another day but not ordinary day, my heart simmering with lots of things to be verbalise so far. When emotions are locked up in heart, they find their ways release through words. In these materialistic words the hardest thing in the world to understand is emotions.. I learn to get in touch with silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.

I realized that all the time it's hard not to churn your emotions with you, at times you feel like verbalise it…. Managing your emotions is an inside job. That's why it's important to learn techniques to make attitude adjustments. You can then direct your emotions more efficiently. Whether we're aware of it or not, our inner experience over the course of each day includes thousands of thoughts, emotions, and impressions that directly impact on our heart and reach to our brain and set our energy level.

So far I liked the last days. It actually felt like I'm on holidays. Slept well, readings, writing, spend time talking about silly things and important things....not bad it is?

Life happens too fast for you ever to think and you never knew what life holds for you, Life is half spent before we know what It Is…..but you'll never find out if you won't move on. . . .When a hope dies, a new hope is born & the life goes on!

Regards’

Meenakshi

World of Words

The thing that really separates humans from any other animal is the words to express. For this very reason i love the slogan of Airtel “express yourself" . Whether within our own thoughts, spoken or written, words have the power to transform the world we live in. Love, laughter, heroism, friendship, and virtually every emotion we feel as human beings can be inspired by words. Unfortunately, fear, anger, and hatred, can also be invoked by words.

I believe we live only to express what we feel, observe and understand. We communicate in various forms , but words are the most accurate forms of expression ... well here is the catch what if you come in contact with a person who doesn’t know your language and whose language you don’t know . Then I believe you have to trust your instincts for communicating. but do I really need to meet such a person to realise this , nope . Words don’t always express what we feel, they just don’t have the power, maybe one can impress someone through proficient usage of a language, but I wonder if the words can express everything. They create misunderstanding because people think that they are the most accurate form of expression, thus understand the superficial meaning and not the feeling they are meant to express.....

I wish everyone could go back to their instincts to understand the feelings rather than the words... Finding ways to release your emotions in a way that need not involve another is limited only by your imagination……

Regard's

 

Meenakshi